Interesting topic or article about ‘managing expectations’ made me think of some great questions.
When a person puts their head in the sand or looks the other way or attempts to ‘deny’ something, go back and ask them what their expectations were in the first place.
It helps give others the mindset and the understanding of just how “messed up” that person’s mentality, mindset, people, policies, and procedures really are!
Pathway Church / Rick Owens: When you consistently put a lying cop over the safety squad what did you think the outcome would be?
In Sept of 2017, in the parking lot of the church, when Brad asked you, “What do I do?” and the reply was, “Find a witness. Go back over there with the witness. But don’t call the cops because you’ll make it worse.” after Rick said that what did he think the outcome would be?
After Rick, Shane, safety squad, police, members of the community, and anyone else who wants, has seen the Reames family along with Adrianne and crew, blatantly knowingly make up insidious lies to BPD, what did you think the outcome would be?
After Brad discretely reminded a few members of Pathway’s Safety Team that Ms. Conaway was issued, and is now violating a restraining order from the 249th District Court, what did Pathway think would happen when Shane instructed Casey on how and what to say to BPD, what did you think was going to happen?
After knowing that Kevin, other safety squad members, are now approaching Brad’s sister at the softball field, and recurring social instances like that are happening over and over and over again because of Pathway Church’s words and actions, what did you expect the outcome to be?
It’s like driving the wrong way down an access road, driving past the signs that say WRONG WAY , going against all of reality of headlights coming straight at you, going past all the other traffic headed in the opposing direction, causing wreck after wreck after wreck, going past all the other signs that are blatantly & obviously pointing in the opposite direction, causing all types of havoc for everyone around…..
And then a judge & a litigation firm says, “After doing all of that, what were your expectations?”
really interesting article and psychology piece that I need to write up more, but it did get me to thinking of better questions to fully understand and better question just the insanity of some folks. sometimes it really doesn’t matter what their answer is, but it really does help to establish a baseline and a cognitive coherent consistent comprehension of what the other person was thinking.
it’s like saying to Faith, ‘ when you say yes to someone’s proposal, when you’ve lived with someone for 5 years, when you’ve rope-a-doped the church, as you’re suddenly telling officers that i’m married, after you’ve socially manipulated the community with outlandish claims, after you’ve obsessed over jason for those 5 years, after you’ve been caught multiple times violating the T.R.O from the District Court Judge, after you’ve done __________________, what on earth did you think that the outcome would be?’
….and you should ask those questions one at a time and then simply end each of those questions with something like, “What were your expectations?”
or you can even start the question with that type of prompt as well by phrasing it to be, “What were you expecting to happen to Aubree, Alexis, and Katelyn once the Judge sees Felony Theft (over $1,500)?”
what were you hoping to gain when you claimed, “He’s Married” :-O to the BPD officers that came out. what was your anticipated outcome with that claim.
Asking and phrasing things like that gives the jury, judge, social worker, and lawyer a really good understanding of the insights and mindset of the people making claims.