HOW TASKING & BLAMING WORKS TO ERODE FREEDOM
Children start off blaming other people and things for their problems when very young, for several reasons:
- It’s easier to blame others than to reflect on what we might’ve done to cause a problem scenario
- It’s safer to blame others (and force the consequences onto them) than to accept the blame ourselves (and potentially bear the consequences instead)
- It allows us to offload the work of solving the problem onto others (someone else has to figure out what happened and fix it, instead of us having to do it)
random thoughts on article that need to be expounded on later:
It’s easier to blame others than to reflect on what we might’ve done to cause a problem scenario
“…tell others to do things, and they magically get done. It’s easy….” <— Isn’t that a pattern that we see happen in both Stacy’s case and Faith’s as well? We (small town, society, culture, Burleson, Pathway Church) simply allow someone to tell us “what to do” and then some people just act on the claim.
I don’t wanna say that there’s a gender bias there, but… honestly there is!
If you’re reading this and you don’t have a penis, grab someone who does and run this little scenario:
Ask someone at church to help with a relationship problem and see what happens.
- Tell ’em the details,
- tell ’em what the other person is doing (in my case it was Faith Conaway),
- tell the church/ police/ friends/ family what the problems are,
- articulate what your concerns are,
and watch people’s reactions.
Now, do the same thing except w/out the penis. In other words, if a guy says the exact same thing that a woman does, and the situation warrants a restraining order against her, and the same people are involved in both scenarios isn’t it amazing how the woman can easily
“tell others to do things, and they magically get done”
Yet when the daddy / step-daddy / guy does the exact same thing – complete with documentation that removes any doubt whatsoever – no one seems to care.
It’s safer to blame others (and force the consequences onto them) than to accept the blame ourselves (and potentially bear the consequences instead)
By simply changing the gender of the person being blamed, suddenly there’s action and consequences on the person who hasn’t done anything wrong.
In more practical sense, why am I being the recipient of hate, death threats, public / private shame, and ridicule when I haven’t done anything wrong? What the heck is going on here?
The problem? Well, it’s much easier for Faith to blame others (me) than to accept any responsibility on her own.
Honestly folks, she can’t have any responsibility – that’s the FEAR that has been SOCIALLY CONDITIONED into her mind.
If you ever say, “Faith, did you accuse Brad of saying something that he never actually said – something that in reality, Jason Conaway said to you years ago?”
Her response will always be “uh….. no. Nope. Didn’t happen. That never happened. I didn’t do it. That’s not something I did. I never did that.” and on and on and on and on
But wait…. one of us knows to click record when the spidey senses are tingling for potentially explosive situations.
On one hand, we’ve got Faith Conaway’s interview with Laura done a few years ago, where we hear Faith saying, “Jason told me I deserve to be beat”.
At the same time, I’ve recorded (yet another) explosive situation and -YEP- there’s the conversation between Faith and I. I’ve asked her why she’s treating me like Jason, what I did to deserve this treatment, saying “he’s the one that abused you, not me”, & I’m asking why she keeps treating me like him.
Yet she will never admit to the possibility of delusions, hearing things, recalling things that didn’t happen, or that she needs any help.
“You said I deserve to be beat!” Whoah nelly! I most certainly did not. Back that recording up girlfriend. This homey don’t play that game cause it wasn’t funny when I was 10 and it sure as heck ain’t something I said. That is something your heard Jason say – literally.
Because it’s easier to blame others. It’s safer to blame others. No matter how many times I googled ‘grounding techniques for ptsd episodes’ and dissolved the explosive situation, there will never be a moment in Faith’s mind that allows her to confront the reality of her actions.
That is what social conditioning does! What happens to a female who is in the Fundamentalist Cult when they are found to be at fault?
It’s almost like the Salem Witch Trials minus that whole fire thing.
Now, couple her history of horrific social conditioning and combine that with the natural consequences of the hundreds of enablers from Pathway Church and the community.
Would Faith EVER accept any accountability?
Not unless she gets help, checks into rehab, or goes to some kind of therapy center.
It allows us to offload the work of solving the problem onto others (someone else has to figure out what happened and fix it, instead of us having to do it)
Now, the responsibility of “solving” the problem has to always & consistently be offloaded to someone who is …..
- ….church? But, I didn’t do anything – at church as well! So, why throw them under the bus and ask them to handle Faith’s delusional paranoia claims?
- ….the police station? But, wait. While the police are going to do their job for each dispatch call, they can NOT do ‘whatever-you-want-them-to-do’.
- ….in the community? Not everyone around is a complete and total gullible idiot. Why try to reach out to people to get them involved when they are NOT the ones who can solve any of Faith’s problems?